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28.07.2010, 18:19 quote

phillipt3
Joined: 27 Jul 2010 Posts: 1 Location: Canada, Ontario, Leamington
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just want to say that not all guys are like these. i dated and married a lady that had 4 kids. yes it is harder on the relastionship but if it is ment to be then you will find a way to make it work.

 

28.07.2010, 22:05 quote

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The difficulties faced when dating single mother’s are the following:

Finding baby sitters
Paying baby sitters
Problem Ex’s
Existing issues with social services
Problem children
Kids you may not like
Kids who may not like you
Time constraints
Affordability
Property size issues
Issues if you want more children
Car/transport issues
Values/lifestyle/remedial habits correction differences
The “you’re not my dad” syndrome
Lack of time, freedom and space to get to know each other and actually date, unless the kids have left home or live permanently elsewhere
The kids turn into their Ex as they grow past age 12

The key things though, simply being: cost, space and time.

Most things are manageable, given the time, effort, financing and support… but these (the above) appear to be the key issues, if a single man meets someone with children or a single woman meets a man with children.

And if they have loads of pets too….?!!!!!!!

 

29.07.2010, 22:35 quote

quietprarie
Joined: 28 Jul 2010 Posts: 3 Location: Canada, Saskatchewan, Saskatoon
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I would gladly date a single mom, doesn't matter how many children she has. I am a single dad. I know how hard it can be to find someone who actually likes you for you. if any single moms out there wanna chat, I live in Canada, my hotmail is akula_61@hotmail.com

 

02.08.2010, 04:21 quote

quietprarie
Joined: 28 Jul 2010 Posts: 3 Location: Canada, Saskatchewan, Saskatoon
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mj1986 wrote:
I'm single mom and I have 2 kids. Originaly not from Canada. Have a good job and just dying to make good friends who really care about me. don't have any fammily here in Canada so sometimes get upset and wish to have a good friend next to me on those bad days.
My friends tell me that I'm different but it is just I grew up differently that's it.Hey by the way I'm not that bad person Embarassed



Hi, I would definetly date a single mom, I'm a single dad, so I know what it's like Smile

 

02.08.2010, 04:22 quote

quietprarie
Joined: 28 Jul 2010 Posts: 3 Location: Canada, Saskatchewan, Saskatoon
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I would definetly date a single mom, I am a single dad, so I know what it's like.

 

02.08.2010, 17:36 quote

paladin737
Joined: 26 Jul 2010 Posts: 1 Location: Canada, Quebec, Amos
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clintas wrote:
the problem with dating a single mom is the fact that you have to care for the kid as well, this isn't a problem, but then you have no right to repremand the child or feel a part of that kid's growing up or development...then you've got trust issues..AND last but not least, the child's father is always going to be lurking in the shadows...maybe wanting to get back in the picture at a later stage and who's to say that the single mom wjavascript:emoticon('UT')ouldn't consider the latter?


This is almost exactly what happened to me. I dated a single mom for a long time and when it comes to the kids, you have no "real" rights. If the father still have a right to visit or to have a week-end or even more with the kids, even though you tried to build something with the kids, when they come back, you have to start all over. Nevertheless, I would gladly date another single mom, now that I know what I am up to Wink

 

02.08.2010, 21:35 quote

razorray
Joined: 01 Aug 2010 Posts: 2 Location: USA, Arizona, Flagstaff
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there are lot's of men that date single mothers don't know about boys dating single mother's maybe they think there dating there mother so there not ready...lol

 

16.08.2010, 15:37 quote

wittyguy65
Joined: 15 Aug 2010 Posts: 1 Location: Canada, Alberta, Okotoks
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For the most part Single Moms are ok to date, but it really depends on how long they have been a single mom. I have seen the children influence greater and greater control of the mom's life until your not really dating her anymore but her children's wishes, desires and pressure. It has to be really hard to be a single mom, but over time children have a tendency to sway them and this has to be the hardest thing to step into.

I have had instances where I was dating a mom with a teen age son and my stuff kept getting broken. This stuff would have been hard to break but it was like it was getting beaten up. Well, as it turned out the son was breaking it as a way to drive a wedge in the influence and advice I was giving his mom.

Over the course of my travels I have seen this more often then not.

 

30.09.2010, 19:19 quote

pizookie
Joined: 29 Sep 2010 Posts: 7 Location: USA, ,
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I think some people careless whether you have one or million of kids. As you can see in reality, many single mom celebrities are dating men which obviously dont have any problem to partners kids. People are just too shallow to think that women with kids are forbidden from pursuing a happiness in relationship.

and anyways...english is not my first language.

 

25.03.2011, 07:10 quote

ziteeee
Joined: 22 Mar 2011 Posts: 1 Location: India, Maharashtra, Nagpur
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hey i am waiting for my masters in canada
you can help me with that and in return can help yourself
email : ziteeee@gmail.com
contact : +91 09960325274

 

25.03.2011, 14:05 quote

nickers536

groovyme wrote:


I can tell you a few reasons that they stay away from single moms.

Very often the child gets to run ramshod on the man because he is not "allowed" to say anything to the moms kid/kids. The prospect of a future with a woman who will not share disciplinary powers with a man is disheartening. They feel like they have no say in their own home.

They just have to abide by the womans rules and HOPE that it is ok.

Second, it can be very hard to compete with the child for affection. I KNOW I KNOW...It isn't a competition, but the child may not see it that way. And the mother will always side with the child.

Again leaving the prospective mate feeling like he is a solid nomber two in his own house.

It is hard to start a relationship with a woman knowing that she expects to be YOUR number one, but you will NEVER even be close to hers.

VERY few women will open themselves up to a real 50/50 FAMILY environment and allow the man (AKA step dad) to have equal powers of punishment and to not ALWAYS fall number 2 behind the child in the house.

I had a few male friends who did it, and they all said the same things.

Not trying to start an argument, just trying to ellucidate you.

Smile

Good luck!




dude if you had a child you as a moral person would put ur child first male or female u are the one responsible for there lives. i agreee on the 50/50 issue but you cant honestly say you wouldnt make your child ur number one priority.

 

27.03.2011, 21:19 quote

kamhigrad
Joined: 26 Mar 2011 Posts: 2 Location: Canada, British Columbia, Kamloops
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itae wrote:
Baggage. I dont want to wait till 9pm when the kids are in bed just to be able to have love.

Nor do i want to listen to miley cyrus in the car during a day out.

Nor do i feel like having 2 kids running around my shit screaming when im tryna relax.

One kids fine, they dont need as much attention. 2 kids fight eachother for it, cba with that if they arent mine.

not to mention it completely ruins your minge, and i dont fancy goin down on a chick if they had 2 kids unless i actually cared about her.


This is and older post and the first time I saw it but this clown has to be about the worst idiot on the planet (next to Gadhafi) and if there ever was someone who deserved a serious beating, it would have to be him. What a child-hating Moron! Twisted Evil Twisted Evil (Grrrr) Exclamation

 

13.08.2011, 13:55 quote

emryscrow
Joined: 22 Jun 2011 Posts: 1 Location: Canada, Alberta, Edmonton
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I don't date woman with kids because I did that already for 10 years and once the kids were grown and in there teens I got ditched. not fair to me or her kids. won't put the time in again unless it my own children. don't need to go through that again.

 

07.04.2012, 15:20 quote

vinceb
Joined: 06 Apr 2012 Posts: 6 Location: Canada, Alberta, Calgary
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Hey there is nothing wrong with a single mom I have dated songle moms in the past and wouyld again it dosent change wo they are!!!

 

11.04.2012, 03:33 quote

deepnegi
Joined: 10 Apr 2012 Posts: 2 Location: Canada, Alberta, Saint Albert
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itae wrote:
Baggage. I dont want to wait till 9pm when the kids are in bed just to be able to have love.

Nor do i want to listen to miley cyrus in the car during a day out.

Nor do i feel like having 2 kids running around my shit screaming when im tryna relax.

One kids fine, they dont need as much attention. 2 kids fight eachother for it, cba with that if they arent mine.

not to mention it completely ruins your minge, and i dont fancy goin down on a chick if they had 2 kids unless i actually cared about her.

 
 
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