hey so i'm a single mom with a four month old son ... i recently just broke things off with his dad and was wondering how many guys out there would or would not date a girl who has kids and why?? just wondering what my shot is at finding a good guy lol.. thanks.. if your gonna read the thread please reply

well, is not problem to a date with a girl who have a child.

the importatant is if you are a good person.and i really like you and i would talk to you soon...

Well honestly... being younger i would have said no because guys generally like sex more than wanting to think about raising children, at least youngers guys do. I'm not speaking for every guy, just a fair amount that i know... lol. But, since i've grown up somewhat and have a 3 year old daughter, i would say yes to someone else who has children (prefrably one though). I have one I love dearly, and would never want to change that.... being a father is the best experience i have ever had. I think after most guys have become fathers, they don't have that fear of fatherhood (responsibility) anymore. It doesn't mean they are any less playful!!

That's my two cents for what it's worth...

whats wrong with that?



for me, the most important thing is you like her and accepting her means accepting all of what she's got (sorry for my english )

I think that dating a girl with a kid is nor problem at all, like someone said further up you date someone for who they are and whatever they might have in their life... If you are wanting to know if the guys who respond would date you then yes I would but I am younger than you so don't know what you're after..

Jamie xxx

I have never dated someone with a kid yet, but I can imagine it comes with the added pressure.
The pressure of not wanting to screw up, knowing that it won't only affect the girl but the child as well.
There might be issues with the child's dad especially if he comes by very often.
Also the presence of a child automatically makes the relationship a serious one.
At least thats why I am hesitant to date someone with a child.

NO, I DON'T THINK I WOULD DATE A GIRL WITH A KID, BUT THATS JUST CUZ I AM YOUNG. SEEMS TO MUCH LIKE SETTLING DOWN. NOR DO I REALLY WANT TO PAY FOR SOMEONE ELSES KID... I MEAN THAT IN A NICE POLITE WAY OF COURSE

yes of course,I think.

It shows your more of a man to get involed with a women with a child cause you know its not yours and you are putting yourself in the childs life pretty much making you thier gaurdian which i would do in a instant cause i love kids

yes I would,I have no problem with it and if no one would,then who would date her.

Alot of guys do not want the responsibility that comes with having a child , being the father of 3 kids, i dont see a problem. I met my ex when her daughter was only 1 month old, and even though we split up ,(HER) my daughter still considers me her daddy,. The problem that arises is "The Ex " , alot of guys get offensive and think your trying to turn the kids against them.And this causes problems. as far as meeting a nice guy, you have to weed the bad 1.s out yourself, Then after awhile , the love that you receive should be for both you and your baby. By looking at your picture , it shoulndt be to hard to find MR Right..... Your gorgeous.

Absolutely!! Being the product of a similar scenario,I can relate with this.What's the cake without the icing??
Besides, you look like a very beautiful woman! You should have no problem!

ok, I know you're looking for the guy's prespective on this but I had to answer.

I left my ex-husband 3 and 1/2 years ago so I've been doing this for a bit now. You're lucky. You're child is only a few months old and a boy and you only have one. That is in your favour. My 2 kids are older and are girls. It works against me. You'll probably be ok finding dates but be warned: a lot of guys will say, yes, they would date a mom but a lot of those guys think because you're a mom, you're desparate for attention so you'll put out easy.

Some of the guys who don't have kids think that your child gets arranged around your dates. They aren't too happy when reality sets in.

Some don't understand that they are not the father and there are certain things that only the bio parents get to decide(provided the father of your child will remain active in his life). I had one man assume he would walk into my life and take over that role and would eventually push out the bio dad. Needless to say, it didn't work out.

This isn't just my experience talking. A lot of single mothers go through it. Like I said, you'll probably be fine. You're beautiful and probably have a lot going for you. These are just things to keep in the back of your mind. First sign of anything like that, dump him. There are good men out there, though. Good luck to you:)

I find that i meet the lady first not the child. If any self respecting guy cannot accept the lady for who she is and having children is a huge part of who she is, then that guy should not even be in the dating areana. So, to answer your question (YES) i would date a lady with children.

Honestly, I just want to thank you for asking this, cuz I'm goin through the same thing, except with a 5 month old daughter.. It's good to know that there are SOME guys out there who aren't afraid to date a younger woman with kids..So... thanks..