Just wondering y girls dont respond to message's a nice guy sends? i know there r sexest guys pestering u just telling u to take ur top off but there r guys on here that just want a relationship with u or friendship just give some guys a chance. so plz give those few guys a chance.

Cos we get like a million messages a day!!!

And if it dont stand out then you stand no chance in hell!

We wan more than a nice guy, we want the ONE. It may be harsh but if your pic aint up to scratch and your message is dull and your profile is bland then the chances of getting a response is next to nil!

I would put up several pictures of you, good ones and ones that reflect you the best but still ones that look like the real you!

DONT send the same message to every girl, make it funny, leave them wanting to reply.

DONT say what your looking for, makes you look needy and desperate.

Keep it light hearted.

DONT shower them with compliments.

Read their profile fully, if they have wrote nothing then DONT say "Oh i read your profile and like what I read"... you read nothing so they wont be fooled! Also If they have wrote very little or nothing then chances of them replying are very slim!

DONT punch above your weight, if shes really hot and you feel your average or below then she aint going to reply.

Keep it to no more than 3 short sentences.

Fill out your profile fully, answer the questions.

DONT put yourself down in your profile,

DONT say your not that good looking.

Make it witty.

Make sure it makes sense, if the english and spelling are poor then it dont say much for you!

DONT give out your msn or facebook straight away.

DONT end it with "look forward to hearing from you"

Lack of attraction? I find a lot of guys..like the previous reply said, "punch above their weight".
meaning they are average, but only message girls that are super pretty.

No offence..but YOU wouldn't date a woman much less attractive would you? Why would you assume women will?

Also...don't go overboard onteh compliments. It comes off as despearate. a short, simple, witty introduction is best.

I got the most beautiful poem today, and the fellow seemed to be so genuine. The poem spoke of being an ocean away and I thought Aw he put some effort into looking into where I lived. Then I looked at his profile, and realized that the fellows actual location is 35 miles away from where I live. So chances are that he is a scammer. And as lovely as the poem was, he really didn't know where I lived or that the location he put on his profile was only a few minutes away. That is the biggest problem weeding the scammers out of the real guys. Oh and another said he Liked milf's! That was a clincher for me! NOT! So, they would have to have something that was very interesting that would catch my attention and not my radar for scammers.

There are girls who believe there holier than thou and only can get a certian man and have themselves on a pedisle and cant see past there own ignorance. u make valid points but what can tell u judge by looks just like us so ur no better than we are so just give a ordinary guy the chance. so maybe its just not the guy shoting 2 high its the girl who sets impossible standards for a man 2 acheve

i have to say i agree with you 100% cboss18

i had to reply to this because i do see it go both ways but the thing is it don't matter who you approach or message project confidence and it will stand out a person can be ass backwards ugly but if they are confident funny and genuinely fun to be around he/she will get what they want

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I do contact guys but they don't contact me back. Even if it's just to say there not into me. Which I can take. But girls don't just do it, guys do it too. Just saying.

jamaalhunte- No wonder why you don't have a girlfriend. I put allot of effort and emotion talking to guys. They don't respond back.

jamaalhunte- Ah ok sorry I miss read what you were saying. I apologize.

It's okay. It does indeed go both ways. I don't really understand what is so hard about returning a message, even if it's to state that you aren't interested. I think you are just having bad luck with the people you try to contact. I've had some bad experiences myself, but overall I've found people to be fairly engaging, and I've never done anything special besides being myself